Archive for January 2, 2017

I May Be Broken, But It Makes Me Unique

Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Personal Thoughts, The World on January 2, 2017 by Neal

Kintsugi has a philosophy that I never truely comprehended. I just figured it looked lovely but as the picture below explains, it’s much more than art. There is something in it that people with physical or mental problems can embrace.

I have seen this around in various motivational posts and posters but never really understood it. As I get a better understanding of my anxiety and depression I’m starting to see how Kintsugi fits in my life. 

My depression has shattered who I was previously, kind of like smashing a plate with a hammer. I can try and put myself back together but I will never be the same again. I can’t go back to the complete, pristine state I was before hand. There will be pieces missing, parts too pulverised to use or gaps caused by warping. In a disposable society I’d be thrown away and replaced (no my dear wife you can’t get rid of me that easily 😬) Being broken is seen as a bad thing and generally people have been shunned for being in such a state.

Confronting my depression and anxiety, I begin to put the pieces of myself back together. As parts come together I use my new coping mechanisms to join them together. I add my understanding into the gaps I can’t find bits for. I replace missing parts with new ideals and approaches. After a long process I will be finally back in the shape I once was but I will be different in appearance. I won’t have that pristine appearance I once had which some may find difficult to understand. After all when I am’better‘, people will expect me to be my normal old selves. I can never be ‘normal‘ again, not that I was to start with.

Being broken in life isn’t something to be ashamed about. We all face troubles that chip and crack at who we are. This makes us special and gives each of us a different story to tell. If we can all keep in mind the art of Kintsugi, we can have a world filled with unique pieces of art with us all. 


Same Sh1t, Different Year

Posted in Personal Thoughts, Politics, Religion, The World on January 2, 2017 by Neal

Well 2016 has proven itself to be a very trying year. We lost a lot of celebrities, some a complete shock at their passing. Various terror groups continued their relentless attacks against a world they wish to control, seeing hundreds of innocent civilians fall to the meaningless attacks. The death tolls from natural disasters added to the damage around the world. The United States got a surprise with the election of Donald Trump as president, while the Brexit result stunned the world. A lot of people seemed to think the world was about to explode with all the troubles it was facing. 

Then 2017 rocks up and everyone is celebrating. A new year and with that a total change in how things work. People won’t die, we’ll all be nice to each other, the four horsemen will settle down and play poker over a few beers, the world will know complete peace as of midnight January 1st.

But wait it seems people didn’t get the memo from 2017. A mass shooting at a New Years party is not how 2017 should start. It is easy to come up with idealistic views for a new year but the reality is a lot harder than we can imagine. However I am not suggesting we simply throw away our intentions of a better year in favour of the same old routines. As a species we tend to give in to the mediocrity of life. While many species find ways to deal with adverse changes we tend to find it difficult. 

I’m not saying all people are like this. There are a large number of people who will go out into 2017 and make monumental changes to the world, preferably in a good way. Some will have a negative impact while a greater number will have a minor impact. No matter the impact we have to realise that 2017 will be different despite all the negative things thrown at us. We can’t get caught in a case of SSDY – Same Shit, Different Year. “But nothing will change so what’s the point?” People will exclaim. True some things will always be a constant in the course of a year. People will die, wars will be fought, disasters will strike and taxes will be paid. 

Now I have a shocking secret to tell you so listen closely, 2017 isn’t a double headed coin. It’s a normal coin and like a normal coin there are two different sides. While we tend to look at all the negatives in a year it will be far from the same as last year. Babies of all species will be born, friendships will be made, lovers will meet, discoveries that change our lives will be made and in short life will move forward despite the evil machinations of others. 

Let’s try a new approach this year. How about we focus on Different Year, New Possibilities. Not as catchy a phrase I know but we can’t make changes if we only focus on what has been and not what can be. 

Have an amazing 2017